Bridgette Gale's Reflections - "I realised I needed to start looking after my mental and physical health; otherwise..." - Thetenthco.com

Bridgette Gale's Reflections - "I realised I needed to start looking after my mental and physical health; otherwise..."

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This part of a series we're calling "Reflections" to share the thoughts, experiences, and the inner workings of women before us, amongst us and ahead of us.

Our intention with these chats are to share stories through candid conversations. We’re asking our contributors to go beyond the "highlight reel" and reflect on the journey, the ups and downs, the self-reflection process, as well as the tools and resources “the work” that helped them to get where they are now. Reminding us that the journey isn’t linear, to not forget about ourselves along the way; when we feel good it has a ripple effect around us.

Finally back by popular demand, our series welcomes Bridgette Gale who shares her incredible journey of transformation and resilience.

Bridgette is a mother of two, transitioned from founder and designer of the renowned swimwear brand Amore + Sorvete to launching a groundbreaking dating app, Hello Darling. Moving from Perth to Sydney with her family, Bridgette's journey is a testament to resilience and reinvention. Hello Darling is a unique dating app where your bestie helps pick your dates, making the process fun and supportive. Beyond her professional achievements, Bridgette emphasises the importance of mental and physical well-being, gratitude and self-care. Her story is an inspiring blend of career ambition and dedication to family and personal growth.

1. The Journey of Self. Let’s dive right in, in your own words, what has your journey been to date? 

 

Last year (2023) was a real challenge for me, as I decided to end my career as the founder and designer of the swimwear brand Amore + Sorvete after 14 years. Moving across the country from Perth to Sydney with my two young kids and husband to launch a dating app, Hello Darling. We packed up our house in Perth, rented it out, and found a house in Sydney online, all within a two-month turnaround. Along with launching a new business and trying to find new schooling for the kids in Sydney, I was running on adrenaline for a good 12 months before I collapsed from exhaustion and couldn’t to get out of bed for 5 days. It was at this moment that I realised I needed to start looking after my mental and physical health; otherwise, I wasn’t going to be able to give my energy to my children, my husband, or my new business.

 

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2. The Mother. You are a mother of two, what did you expect motherhood to be like before you had children? What surprised you?

 

I was always a maternal person from a young age and I couldn’t wait to be pregnant.  When I gave birth to my first born, I really struggled to have an instant connection which really surprised me. I’m glad a friend told me that it wasn’t uncommon before it happened so I was aware.

 

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I think I really struggled with the lack of control after having a newborn, all I wanted was routine and thought I could just bounce back. But from someone who enjoyed having a minimum of 10 hours of sleep solid a night, to then going to waking up every 2-3 hours to feed it really shocked me. I had a lot of anxiety and not much support from family and friends, as I was one of the first to have a baby. I felt really isolated and alone. 

However, I preferred going from 1 to 2 babies than 0 to 1 baby. I was really prepared second time around, I knew what I was doing, I took the time off work to recover properly and really appreciated those newborn snuggles.

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3. The Postpartum. Let’s talk about postpartum, it can be a doozy, how has both of your experiences been? What did you wish people knew about postpartum? What advice would you give yourself looking back?

 

As I was running my own business and had staff working for me, I went back to work after two weeks which I feel was the wrong choice for me, because I didn’t have that instant connection with my first born so it only prolonged that. I wish I was at home bonding with my daughter, now looking back. When I had my second, I made sure I had 6 weeks off before going back to work and I really enjoyed that time. I felt like I never gave my body a chance to rest and recovery and I have probably paid the price for that over the years.

 

4. The Creator. You are a creator of My Hello Darling— please tell us more about and what you have planned.

 

Yes, we launched Hello Darling 5 months ago now. It’s a dating app where you swipe for your bestie, they pick your dates, we then book the venue on behalf of the daters. My co-founder Brendan and I have been working really hard to get it off the ground, we’re really happy with the growth so far. We have just launched In Sydney but the plan is to go interstate hopefully very soon.

 

5.The Feel-Good Components. Being a mother, and founder, as well as so many other things, can be challenging to dedicate the time to do things for our own wellbeing. Reflecting on the things that makes You Feel Good, what would the recipe look for you, by doing:

  1. Tiny things frequently (20 sec or so) multiple times a day: Gratitude, it’s so important to train your mind to have a positive look on life and I think it starts with gratitude. Telling yourself what you’re grateful for, which could be opportunities that come your way, for your family and friends, for the beautiful weather on that day, for meeting a friend or connection. I believe this allows for more of those things to come your way.  Mothers ways to take care of herself
  2. Small things daily: Moving your body - it could be a walk, Pilates class or a run but I at least try and do something daily and at least one of them out in nature once a week. 
  3. Big things once in a week: Date night or catching up with friends for dinner, a wine or a beach walk.
  4. Bigger things once in a while: Vacation – I think it’s important to have something to look forward to in life. For me, that’s a vacation either with my family, husband or solo time in Melbourne for a weekend to see my family. I love travel and I love being in nature. 
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6. The Inspiration.

 

 

 Describe your favourite moment of the day?

Cuddling my kids in bed

What are some of the tools and/or resources that you find support in?

My self-care tool kit, which includes gratitude, meditating, having a bath, sauna, reading, journaling, walk in nature, ocean swim, a laugh with a girlfriend or getting a massage

We love a quote/word of wisdom. Do you have a quote or sentence you found helpful in your journey? 

You are enough!

 

What would you like readers to take away from today’s chat?

I’ve always been extremely driven in my career, and it’s taken me a long time to realize that I shouldn’t be ashamed of it just because I’m a mum now. I think women can have careers, great work ethic, and ambition, and still fulfil those dreams, while at the same time being loving mums and great role models for their children.

What would you like readers to take away from today’s chat? I’ve always been extremely driven in my career, and it’s taken me a long time to realize that I shouldn’t be ashamed of it just because I’m a mum now. I think women can have careers, great work ethic, and ambition, and still fulfil those dreams, while at the same time being loving mums and great role models for their children.

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You can find Bridgette's (@bridgettegale_) instagram here, you can also check out Hello Darling and their instagram.

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